Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Gender Equality: A Noble but Flawed Cause

Disclaimer: This post is strictly about gender equality and not about women rights. I am in no way an advocate of beating women, mutilating their genitals or any other inhumane acts against them. I love women (in a can’t live with them, can’t live without them way). In addition if the following does not apply to you or you don’t agree. Instead of bashing me with words you can kindly tell us how you or your life is different and create a learning experience for the rest of us.

The ideology behind gender equality advocacy is “It doesn’t’ matter what your gender is, we are equal in everything”. That is, no gender stereotyping. That is the ideal; now let us discuss the reality.

To start with I will make the bold claim that “In today’s world, most women are guilty of gender stereotyping”. You will see what I mean shortly.

I always thought that the goal of any anti- (such as anti-racism, anti-tribalism, anti-genderalism (if that is even a word) and so on) was to walk (or work) under the guise that the factor that gave rise to the “-ism” in the first place did not exist (such as a black man being black or a white man being white). Wouldn’t it be a cool sight when a white man can say to a black man in a truly race-equal environment “Hey black man do you want to go get a drink” and the black man replies without taking offence “Sure white boy I would love to”. Of course this kind of dialogue should have taken place before they exchange names if not it would be stupid. But I digress. Today’s write-up asks the question, why is it that when most women want to get you to do something you don’t want to do or can’t do they always use 1 of the following 2 statements (They are particularly used when money is involved):
  • You don’t love me (if you are in a relationship or trying to get into one with her)
  • Are you not a man?
The former I will skip for today. The latter is the one of interest. WTF (kids please close your ears), I thought the whole gender equality thing was so that we stop such gender stereotyping.

It is amazing how the same gender of human beings can go from saying “What a man can do a woman can do better” to saying something as contradicting as “Are you not a man?” all in the same 24 hour clock. Interesting isn’t it? In the first statement, she is strong and superhuman and in the second statement she suddenly became the weak and helpless victim. I don’t know if I should call this hypocrisy, vacuousness or mental manipulation. Wouldn’t it be a truly gender equal world when a man can say to a woman “You sleep on the couch while I sleep in the bed”. Without the man hearing a cliché “You are not even a gentleman”. More gender stereotyping in action if you ask me. Seriously what happened to my fundamental human right and free will to choose to say no or yes when I want to. I am not sure if you see where I am going with this.

My response is simple. Real men can see through this act. The only men who fall for it are babies, wankers or have less testosterone than the rest of us. Nobody is trying to disrespect you or not help out when we can. But when a man says he can’t do something, he can’t. Let it go. Well I pity the fool who falls victim of this lame act and ends up dead in a bid to please a selfish woman. I rest my case.